Instead of asking yourself how you feel about him/her. Ask yourself how he/she makes you feel. When you focus on what you like about someone, you are letting them off the hook. This question allows fantasy. If you flip it and ask how they make you feel, suddenly you’re snapped back into realty. They are up at bat. Are they striking out or hitting home runs?
I think we focus too much on what we want and not enough on what we deserve. We deserve to feel invincible and beautiful. Does this person make you feel this way? No? Then why are you with them? Sex, comfort, or a label is not enough. Life is too fucking short. Relationships are too fucking hard.
The way someone makes you feel is the gift of the relationship. Read that again. The gift is not that you’re in one. What’s left after the dust settles, “dust” being the initial attraction, is the nectar - how the person makes us feel. If the answer to that question is shitty, well we don’t need anyone to make us feel that. We do an excellent job of that on our own.
So if you’re going to invest in a relationship, because that’s what you’re doing, INVESTING, look for someone who makes you feel a way that no one else on the planet can make you feel. That is of value. If that person makes you feel like many others can, including yourself, that’s like investing in stock you know is bad. So if you don’t profit (find happiness), don’t be surprised.
YES SHE IS. AND IT’S HER BIRTHDAY TODAY TOO!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMY I LOVE YOU SOOOO MUCH!! ♥ The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and found their way out of depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.And that right there is the epitome of my mom.
You know what I’m talking about right? You’re only happy when you’ve seen him. You’re only happy when she’s called you up. You’re only happy when he’s fallen asleep with you on the phone. When he doesn’t visit you, you’re quick to snap on him or anyone else in your line of fire. When she hasn’t called you up, you aren’t in the mood to go here, there or anywhere. When you don’t fall asleep together, you lay in your bed restless for hours. When you haven’t spent every waking hour with each other, it’s easy for anyone to tell, which is why they steer clear from you.
Yeah, that’s definitely not cute. It’s also not healthy. Hate to bring you back to reality, but you existed quite fine without them before. Actually, you were pretty damn happy if you can recall. Remember that? Remember when you didn’t depend on anyone else but yourself to be happy? That was a good time wasn’t it?
If you’re so dependent on them now, what are you going to do when they’re gone?
Just saying, it’s definitely not a good feeling. I would know. It’s better to catch yourself before you’re caught in this endless downward spiral; that’s all. You just can’t forget who you were/are once another person becomes a part of the equation. If it does end, how are you supposed to get back to how life was before them if you’ve already lost yourself? In actuality, it was preventable all along.
(Just a thought, not personal but just thought about blogging hopefully the point gets across.)
No matter what I go through, he’s working things out for my good. There might be some rough days but I get the privileges of growing, of figuring out those things that are in me that aren’t like him, of becoming the image of Christ. So no matter what I give thanks to God for everything that happens in my life, good and bad.
“There were different kinds of strength. I knew that now. It didn’t always come from a knife or a willingness to fight. Sometimes it came from endurance, where the well ran deep and quiet. Sometimes it came from compassion and forgiveness.”— Ann Aguirre (Enclave)
in any type of relationship parents, friends, or lover, when you have to put your foot down and say that’s it. No matter how much you love and care for that person. Enough is enough. Sometimes the old way to make the other person realize is to leave. No matter how much it hurts and you don’t want too. Its the only way..